Little Drummer Boy

Sam was eight years old and had Down’s syndrome. He attended a local primary school and received daily help from his support assistant within the classroom.  His limited understanding meant that he expressed himself using single words only.  To help him communicate, he had been taught from the Makaton Signs and Symbols Communication System which uses speech with signs (gestures) and symbols (pictures) to help people communicate.   Sam’s mother had asked for my help because Sam’s interaction wasn’t improving, adding to his other difficulties.  She also mentioned that Sam was now refusing to walk along an area of path on his way to school, where he had previously fallen down.

Sam’s father was unwell and often at home, battling depression. Sam’s mother had given birth to Sam in her early forties, the daily demands of caring for a child with special needs left her physically exhausted. Although a trained dancer, she felt she lacked any joy in her life having also recently lost her own mother to a terminal illness.  In an effort to control Sam’s behaviour, No’, ‘Stop’ and ‘Don’t’, were words she regularly shouted before picking up items that he repeatedly threw to the floor.

The innovative work of the Living Memory Research Trust is based upon the belief in the continuity of the soul and its journey through lives.  Our colleague, a consultant astrologer and numerologist focuses upon medical astrology (Iatromathematics) and the psychological and spiritual aspects of the soul journey.  This innovative work provides insights into current relationship issues related to previous experience of shared lives together. I have found this to be invaluable guidance, when searching for the optimum approach to specialised therapy.  In this instance, I requested a chart for both Sam and his mother.

Sam’s astrological chart indicated that he and his mother were opposites in many respects and could therefore learn much from each other as each had the ability to ‘free the other’s spirit.’  The chart indicated that his mother would be able to teach her son to be practical and to take responsibility for his physical needs and he would help her to relax and ‘lighten up’ to enable her to find some joy in life.  She had feelings of self-doubt which limited her ability to achieve, putting duty before pleasure, Sam on the other hand, was an ‘optimist with an innate faith in life’.  He ‘needed adventure with a desire to soar, intellectually and spiritually.’  Sam’s ‘light touch’ could stop his mother from worrying and his mother’s realism would temper his enthusiasm.  However, there was a danger that his mother’s seriousness and inflexibility would limit Sam’s ability to progress.  To avoid this happening, their joint charts indicated that they were required to work creatively together.

The astrological chart indicated that Sam would respond positively to singing, jungle images and drums.  I felt that this advice could be incorporated into his play sessions, as a reminder of the strength of positive memories from their other lives together.

 Therapy

Therapy for Sam was partly focused on encouraging his mother in the use of positive language e.g. to invite Sam to do what she wanted him to do rather than to use negative words such as ‘don’t’, ’stop’ and ‘no’. For example, to first gain Sam’s attention by saying his name and then when she has his attention, to make her request e.g.  ‘Sam, put the cup on the table’ rather than ‘don’t throw the cup on the floor’ and ‘Sam, please walk’ instead of shouting at him to ’Stop running.’

To stop Sam’s habit of throwing objects on the floor, I suggested that his mother put her hand over Sam’s hand and then together they were to pick up whatever he had thrown on the floor, ignoring his resistance.  By repeating this ‘hand over hand’ action each time he threw something, I assured her that Sam would eventually tire of making extra work for himself and would stop throwing things.  It was also a demonstration for him that his mother was in charge not he and proved very effective.

We tackled Sam’s remembered fear of a previous fall by distracting him.   As he and his mother set off for school, his mother sang action songs and appropriate nursery rhymes as he approached the area that caused him concern.  This encouraged him to keep moving and before long, he had replaced the trauma incident with a happy memory of the sing-along- journey to school.

Specific vocal tones based on the Rainbow Chakra Toning System were practised at home and in our play sessions.  Using his voice in this way to make sounds rather than words improved his overall confidence.  The action of toning impacts positively on cellular processes and on the neurological system and daily practice began to improve Sam’s ability to process his thoughts and express himself through words rather than gestures.

The sacral tone /O/ (as in home) was used to strengthen Sam’s voice and stimulate left brain neurological connections, improving social interaction and communication which helped him to relate to other children in the classroom.  Toning is an ancient and powerful method of healing with the voice.  It provides a means of creative expression through simple vocal techniques to create specific sounds.  Focused toning can alter the molecular structure of our bodies and the vibration of the space around us, triggering our own self-healing mechanism.  Each tone within the Rainbow Chakra toning system corresponds to a specific chakra (energy centre) and a specific colour, creating a rainbow of colour and sound to strengthen and balance the auric field.  The sacral tone resonates with the vibratory frequency of the colour orange; together we made an orange tent from a clothes airer covered in orange material for Sam to sit under while making his tone.

The chart had suggested singing, drumming and exploring jungle images and these activities were incorporated into our play session and encouraged at home.  Sam’s mother responded well to the suggestion that she should dance to Sam’s drumming.  As she danced to his drum beat, Sam was shown the positive impact of his actions. Their relationship improved as they laughed together and this empowered both mother and son and helped to redress the balance of control in their relationship.

The Emerald Alignment a self help method of aligning the subtle energy field was practised by Sam’s mother at home in the morning and evening, this improved her sleep, enabling her to cope with the stresses of daily life.

The Emerald Alignment for Children also played an important role at the beginning and end of Sam’s play sessions, I hung a swathe of emerald green material from the ceiling as a visual prompt.  Before he was taken through the emerald alignment process, Sam always chose to sit on the emerald green material where it fell in a pool on the floor.

As a result of his play sessions, Sam became more aware of his surroundings and because of our turn taking activities, his teacher reported that he was beginning to share and cooperate in activities at school. His mother had pulled back from anticipating her son’s daily needs and he was now dressing and toileting himself. Regularly drumming to a rhythm improved Sam’s ability to listen and his ability to identify specific speech sounds when spoken to.  This in turn improved the clarity of his own speech because we can only reproduce what we hear.

Sadly, Sam’s parents moved from the area and we were unable to continue our sessions but this work was instrumental in illustrating for me the value of  medical astrology  in assisting the therapeutic process.

Information on the Rainbow Chakra Tones can be found on the Living Memory Research Trust website

Further informationrelating to therapy with children is available on this link on the Living Memory Research Trust website 

Jennifer can be contacted at Email: jennifer.warters@lightvoice.org.uk